Think of infidelity like the perfect storm. There are so many things going on and you’re going to struggle to keep the boat of your relationship afloat. You are going to be dealing with so many feelings and emotions – you are likely to end up being paralyzed by the immensity of the situation.
Naturally, there are some couples out there who are still able to make things work even after a case of infidelity and cheating in the relationship. But not all couples are going to be so lucky. In fact, the vast majority of relationships with cheating involved is going to result in breakups or separations. Whatever the case, the relationship is going to go through some very substantial changes once someone cheats.
1. At least one of you is going to request for some time apart.
It’s natural that one of you is going to want to ask for some time apart. Sometimes, that can mean just a few hours of separation. For others, it might take a few weeks or even months.
2. You and your partner might not see eye to eye on how bad the situation is.
One partner might think that the relationship is completely doomed and the other might think that things aren’t as bad. It’s very likely that you won’t see eye to eye on just how serious the situation that you’re in really is.
3. The negative emotions in the relationship will be at an all-time high.
Of course, as is expected, there will be so many emotions running through a relationship once someone cheats. And for the most part, these emotions are going to be of the negative kind. It will be very difficult for couples to navigate their way through such negativity.
4. The trust in the relationship will be marred significantly.
Naturally, when two people get into a relationship with one another, they establish a sense of trust with each other. However, once someone cheats in the relationship, it is a blatant betrayal on the other party. And that betrayal can really damage the trust that has been built over the course of the relationship.
5. The broken trust can affect future relationships after a breakup.
Even if the relationship in question comes to a close, the effects of cheating can stick to a person long after the breakup. As the person who gets cheated on gets into new relationships, they are at risk of having trust issues as a result of being victimized in the past.
6. Cheating can affect the aggrieved person’s self-esteem.
Cheating can really damage a person’s confidence. The person who gets cheated on will wonder about why their partner could ever betray them like that. And they will try to see what flaws they have which could have induced the infidelity.
7. The quality of communication in the relationship might strengthen.
In some cases, the quality of communication in the relationship might actually strengthen as a result of cheating. This is because infidelity and unfaithfulness can raise a lot of questions in a relationship; questions that just need answers. And so, the people involved working together to try to make sense of everything – no matter how painful it might be.
8. The relationship is likely to come to an end.
And of course, the one change that you can most likely expect when someone cheats in the relationship is that the relationship will probably come to an end. A vast majority of couples all over the world are just never able to recover from cases of infidelity.
Cheating is always rough. Sure, there is a chance that the relationship would be strong enough to withstand the drama that comes with infidelity. But a lot of the time, the whole situation just tends to overwhelm couples. This is especially true for younger couples who haven’t been together for so long.
The reason this is the case is that trust is always going to be a very important pillar on which to build a relationship. And once that trust is broken in such a severe manner, it can be really hard for couples to recover. It’s like a house that loses one of its walls. The entire integrity of the structure is just compromised.
That is why it’s important for you to always stay loyal and faithful in a relationship. You always want to commit yourself to the one that you’re in a relationship with. If things are getting difficult, then fight even harder to keep that love alive. But if you feel like it’s really not meant to be, then just break things off and walk away. Don’t cheat. There is no plausible circumstance in the world wherein cheating is going to be okay.
Make sure that you are mature enough to understand the value of faithfulness and commitment in a relationship prior to actually getting in one. If these are principles that don’t really matter much to you, then that’s a serious problem. You might have some serious growing up that you need to do.
By Agina Gideon, Nigeria