Find peace in everything you do. Everything you associate with and everything you are. Choose to have a calmness, a harmony, inside of you. A positive light that chooses joy every day. That chooses to be real every day, real and vulnerable, but strong and secure in yourself. If you can’t find that peace and joy in your current situation then MOVE. If you are unhappy and stressed in the situation you are in, find ways to change it, to get out of that situation and to do what is right for you. Don’t let someone steal your smile and your light just because they want to be comfortable in a situation with you while you are feeling the exact opposite. Do what is best for you. Don’t put yourself in a closet or on hold so others can feel at ease in the situation they are in right now. That is how you burn out so quickly and become a hollow shell instead of a person full of life, love, joy, and peace. Search for that peace and happiness and when you find it hold onto it tight.
Caring for others and wanting to help others is important, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying be self-centered and only care about yourself 24/7, no….. No, you need to find that balance, that love for others, but that love for yourself as well. That security and confidence in your person to know what is best for you. To know when to take yourself out of situations that won’t benefit you in the long run. Life is just too short to stay in those situations.
I find that balance between caring for others and myself to be hard and easy at the same time. One of the easiest parts is the real people and friends will understand when you need to do you. They get that we are all only human… Also when you learn to love yourself you suddenly have so much light and love to share with others too. You just want to envelope everyone in a great big warm positive hug. At the same time though we are all only human and have our rough days, our awkward situations, life’s curve balls, etc…. I found that being secure in myself it’s okay to put yourself first sometimes. Not in a selfish like me me me way, but more in a “this is for my own good and I’m avoiding a total breakdown and burnout in the future” way. You have to be your strongest and fiercest ally and stick up for what is best for you. What will keep that peace and joy alive inside of you.
I awhile back went through a situation like this. I was in a spot that just wasn’t’ bringing me joy anymore. Instead I was getting stressed, discouraged, disheartened and sad each time I was in that situation, and I knew I wasn’t going to be able to last much longer. I could actually feel myself turning into a hollow shell and not caring. Just going into autopilot…. That made me so sad. I don’t want to live life on autopilot, I want to be in situations that I can be fully engaged in and can enjoy. I want to make memories and moments that will last forever. That is what life is about! Living in the moment and making those memories that will last you a lifetime. Those memories that you can look back on and just smile from ear to ear. So I left that situation. I took myself out of that situation because I knew that was what was best for me in the long run. It hurt some people, and some people felt betrayed by my leaving that situation I think… I never meant to hurt or betray people though. I did not have any negative or bad feelings towards any of the people around me, no I just knew the situation was no longer right for me. It was time for me to move on and discover new things. Different ways to light my soul on fire and to bring me joy. It is totally fine to do that. It is completely fine to do something that will help you in the long run and not wear you out. You owe it to yourself! Xoxo
Life is only so long… you can’t keep saying “oh I’ll figure out something that will make me happier tomorrow”… or “it’s fine I’ll just keep saying I’m ok when I’m not.” No you have to act now. You have to choose to find that joy and that peace so each day you can wake up ready and looking forward to what you have ahead. Looking forward to exploring new things and making amazing new memories. Stand up for yourself so you can be full of light, not a hollow shell trying to make a situation work for the benefit of others. Speak up for yourself, Speak up and stand up. We are only guaranteed the now so why not make the most of it right? Never lose that smile just make another person comfortable. Always be truly smiling and happy for the right reasons. Always have that passion and excitement inside you because you are doing things you love. Choose that every day! Xoxo
When you stand up for yourself, you are standing up for everyone who will follow your positive example!
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